Question by light headed: Who looks like the “CANCEL PERSON” in this “GIRLS TRIP TO THE BEACH” scenario? Am I the bad guy? What do I say?

I am 26 and I have a friend who is 27. This girl we will call “JENNY” and I were best friends from the ages of 11-14. I moved and we lost touch for over 10 years. We found each other and I thought it was a great thing. Still do I guess

The first time we hung after all of those lost years, I introduced Jenny to my (very long term) boyfriend, (who is now my husband) and we took her to a casino to have a great time. We paid for the drinks, got a free hotel room for being part of their club etc etc. She was “a lot to handle” mainly b/c she had no money, and was very “hyper” the more alcohol she drank, and was kind of high strung, but was not on drugs it was just kind of like ‘babysitting’.

So now a year has gone by, and I thought it would be nice to get together again so she didn’t think I was purposely avoiding her. We live an hour apart and we made plans to go camping. Jenny, me, my husband, and two of my younger siblings. All and all due to certain circumstances we canceled and planned to camp the following weekend instead.

HERES WHERE THE PROBLEM KIND OF STARTS:
Camping is fun, however, Ive kind of been doing a lot of it lately, and so I thought, “why don’t we make it a fun GIRLS TRIP to the BEACH instead? I called her Monday of this week and shared with her my idea. I told her we would take MY CAR, my sister (age16), Jenny, ALONG with Jennys sister who is about 30, and the 30 year olds daughter who is 9. The 9 y/o has never been to the beach and has been extremely excited since she found out about the “Girls Trip”. So days have gone by, meanwhile, I am the one who paid for a the hotel ($ 150) its a 2 room suite, the gas, and suggested we all bring our own food/drinks. Friendly so far right?

So heres where it gets WEIRD.
She calls me today around 2PM and complains to me about her back hurting and how she needs to get bathing suits out of storage for the 3 of them, and how she has no gas $ to get there, and im just like…”Hey if you want to reschedule we can always go next weekend”.

(I found out this past weekend that she is addicted to pain killers for a few ‘conditions’ she has. I gave her $ 20 dollars, bought her breakfast $ 6.00, and bought alcohol the night some friends/us hung out).

She goes “no no lets still go” I think she was just calling to complain and just visit/talk. She has plenty of time to talk cause she has no job, I have never asked why.)

So at 3PM TODAY, she calls and goes “Me and my sister were talking and we have no money for food so just cancel the trip, we cant go) So I immediately go, “OK LET ME CALL YOU RIGHT BACK I”LL SEE IF I CAN CANCEL THE RESERVATIONS” ) and kindly hung up. I have not talked to her since. She then called me back about 30 minutes later, and I told my 16 y/o sister, I go….”Watch she’s going to say OH NOW THEY CAN MAKE IT” but however she left a msg and said, For sure just cancel the whoooooole trip cause everything just BLEW UP at my house” and that was it. She is currently staying at her moms b/c she just turned in the keys to her apt that she was staying in forever.

I AM CONFUSED. I Need to call her.

I feel bad about the little girl cause she was so excited I talked to her and everything, but however, I am paying for everything else and we were supposed to do kind of like an “Okie thing” like bringing cheap beer/left overs. I just cant handle this ADULT BABYSITTING…..

I am offering so much, should I just call her back and say, suck it up lets just go? I am keeping the reservations I just dont know if I should cancel HER and just go with my sister?

Its just not a good way to start out the trip with ‘drama’..we’re old already! come on you know…

If I tell her its canceled, she’ll want to go another time….and I CANNOT handle TRYING to make plans with this girl she is insane, putting me through all of this. Meanwhile I am working 40 hours per week! What do I tell her? She keeps calling but not leaving any msg other than “Call me back”. We were originally supposed to leave tomorrow at 2:PM.
HELPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!

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Best answer:

Answer by Cortlan
She is obviously not the same person you liked as a kid and I think you should stop the friendship. The little girl going to the beach is not worth that.

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